Marriage customs and traditions are different around the world, but developing good communication skills and expectations before marriage can help you resolve problems you encounter in a relationship. So, what are three problems or issues that can come up in a relationship and what are the keys to working through them in a positive way? In what way can a marriage preparation class help in some cases?
“tie the knot” = get married
“Ryan and Ashley are going to tie the knot this summer.”
“be on the rocks” = have serious problems in a relationship
“Their relationship has been on the rocks for a long time.“
A. Listen to the recording and answer the questions.
Woman: Hey. What’s this on Facebook? It says . . . Are you getting married?
Man: Yeah. Didn’t you know that?
Woman: No. Why didn’t you tell me about it? (It) says you’re getting married next week.
Man: Yeah, and I’m bringing her over to mom’s house tomorrow. You’ll love Jasmine.
Man: Yeah. Here’s her picture on Facebook.
Woman: Oh. Wow.
Man: What? What do you mean?
Woman: Dad is not going to be impressed.
Woman: She’s got, like a lot of tattoos and a nose ring, and uh, I’m sorry. The family is going to be really surprised.
Man: Ah, she’s so, well, so sensitive and caring.
Woman: Um, well . . . . [ What? ] Have . . . have you taken any marriage prep classes?
Man: Ah, who needs that anyway? I know all about women.
Woman: Yeah. Right, like . . . . What have you had? Like ten girlfriends in the last six months?
Man: Well, that’s different!
Woman: Uh, listen. Obviously, you need to improve your communication skills, and the best thing at this point . . . . if you’re really set on marrying Jamie . . .
Man: Jasmine . . .
Woman: Okay, I’m sorry, Jasmine, anyway, um, you really should take a marriage prep class.
Man: What? What are you talking about? I know all about love and romance.
Woman: Uh. Right . . . .
Man: What? What do you mean?
Woman: Look. Okay. It’s more than that. What do you know about, say, personal finance? [ Well, you know . . . ] I mean, how are you going to manage your money together? Are you going to have a joint bank account? Whose salary is going to pay the bills?
Man: Ah, no problem. No problem. We have that figured out. My paycheck is going to be automatically transferred to her overseas bank account.
Woman: Oh. [ What? ] Uh, where exactly is this account? What’s the name of the bank?
Man: Ah, I don’t know. Jasmine’s going to take care of that.
Woman: Oh, boy. Right. Um, well, what about children? Are you guys going to have any kids?
Man: Well, I want a large family, so eight kids would be just about right.
Woman: Wow! What does Jasmine say about that?
Man: Ah, well, she doesn’t want any kids, but I’ll change her mind once we get married. ( Right. ) No problem.
Woman: Okay, what about housework? How are you going to handle that?
Man: Well, Jasmine won’t mind doing it. ( (Did) she said that? ) Well, not exactly. We’ve been just so busy planning out our honeymoon, that we just haven’t worked out, you know, these small details.
Woman: Great! You know what? By the time you learn her last name, I think things are going to be over between the two of you.
Man: No, you just want and see.
Vocabulary and Sample Sentences
- sensitive (adjective): understanding the feelings of others
– My spouse is very sensitive to our children’s needs, and I love her for that.
- caring (adjective): kind
– If you have a caring attitude towards others, they will feel of your love for them.
- prep (adjective): short for preparation
– Taking a marriage prep class can help you develop better communication skills with your family.
- obviously (adverb): in a way that is easy to see and understand
– James obviously didn’t listen to his wife’s feelings because she is still very angry with him.
- improve (verb): make better
– How did you improve your relationship with your kids over the years?
- at this point: at this time
– Amanda and Brandon don’t want to get married at this point, but they are talking about this in the future.
- be set on something (verb): be determined to do something
– Why is Jessica set on marrying Andrew so quickly? They’ve only known each other for three weeks.
- joint (adjective): having something together
– My parents have a joint savings account.
- work out (verb): find a solution or come to an agreement on something
– Fortunately, they are getting counseling, and their marriage is working out
– With time and patience, things work out in the end.